Our language is one of the most important forms of communication with each other. The power of words that come out of our mouths is enormous. Some people decide to abuse such a power by manipulating reality and telling lies
Pathological liars are one of those people who abuse their ability to communicate with people through words by lying whenever they have the chance.
Are pathological liars dangerous? If a person is a pathological liar, it does not make them dangerous. However, you still want to avoid pathological liars at all costs or else you’ll have to question everything they say for as long as you know them.
Who are pathological liars exactly?
Most of the people on Earth have lied at some point in their lives, this does not make them pathological liars.
There are some lies that are necessary to achieve a goal, and some people use these lies to get what they want.
For example, you might pretend that you are sick to avoid work, or you might lie as much as you can in your CV to get your job. Such lies do not mean that you are a pathological liar (still, you should not lie at all).
The most important trait that distinguishes a pathological liar from the rest is that they lie without a clear reason. They lie just for the sake of it.
They not only lie constantly, but they do it even though they know it won’t help them achieve anything.
Pathological liars are usually willing to keep the lie going on for months and even years. They do whatever it takes to keep their lies undetected. It’s as if they believe their own lies.
How to detect if someone is a pathological liar?
To detect if a person is a pathological liar, you first need to know when they are lying and when they are not.
Here’s a great article by psychology today that sums up the way you can detect if a person is lying or not in just a few seconds.
Basically, what you have to do first is ask them a series of normal questions. These questions shouldn’t make them feel that you are suspecting something.
While they answer your questions, you should observe their body language. Notice if they are looking you in the eye or not, notice the way they move their body, and so on.
After that, you should ask them questions that you think they might lie when they answer them. When they answer these questions, observe their body language again and notice if they have changed it compared to when you asked them normal questions.
If their body language is different, it means that there is something wrong and that they might be lying. If they try to pull their bodies inward, it means that they are trying to act less noticeable and that means that they might be lying.
Also check their facial expressions and their voice. Facial expressions can reveal if someone is lying or not, and so does a change in their voice tone.
Now that you know how to detect a liar, how can you tell if the person is a pathological liar? If you think that the lies that you have detected do not have any significant benefit for the person telling them, then this might indicate that they are a pathological liar.
If a person lies on things that do not matter, and they make sure that they keep their lies undetected no matter what happens, then these are signs of a pathological liar.
Should you stay away from pathological liars?
Yes you should, most of the time. If your significant other or one of your friends is a pathological liar, then it’s best for you to end your relationship with them.
Why would you want to live the rest of your life with someone who keeps lying about even the simplest things in life?
Trust is one of the pillars when it comes to maintaining a friendship or a romantic relationship. A lie can break the trust between people. If you know that a person is a pathological liar, then you know that there is no way you can trust what they say.
With that said, even though pathological liars aren’t really dangerous, it’s better if you avoid them at all cost.
What if the pathological liar is a member of your family or someone whom you can’t abandon at all? What should you do in this case?
One thing that you can do is help them overcome their problem. Which brings me to the next question.
Is pathological lying a disease and can it be cured?
There is a lot of controversy when it comes to pathological lying. Some claim that it can be categorized as a stand alone diagnosis while others believe that it is a result of bigger conditions.
But you don’t have to worry about that because it can be cured. There are certain therapy sessions that can help a pathological liar overcome their condition. Also, there are some meditation activities that have proved to be effective too.
So make them visit a psychologist and they’ll know what to do.
Pathological liars are not dangerous, however you might want to stay away from them because you will not be able to trust most of what they tell you. Pathological lying can be cured with the right meditation and the right therapy.