Do confessions ruin friendships?

Feelings if held within yourself can be a huge burden on your physical and mental health. This makes you want to express your feelings as soon as possible. 

So let’s say that you like one of your friends and you’re afraid that if you tell them, you’ll end up ruining your relationship with them. In other words, you need to know whether confessing your feelings will ruin your friendship with the person that you love.

Do confessions ruin friendships? It depends on many factors. The way you confess your feelings to your friend, the type of friendship you have, and the kind of people you and your friend are can play a huge role in whether or not your friendship will be ruined after you confess your feelings.

In order to truly know whether your confession will ruin your friendship, ask yourself the following questions:

1 – How will I confess my feelings to them

The way you confess plays a huge role in the outcome. Telling your friend that you have a crush on them or that you love them will definitely surprise them and put them on the spot.

If you just tell them that you have a crush on them using a text message and then you disappear because you’re afraid of their response, then your friendship with them might be on the line if they say no.

If you want to surprise your best friend with some shocking confession, then you need to do it right.

Instead of just throwing your confession and then disappearing, what you can do is first tell them how happy you are with the time that you have spent with them as friends. 

Then let them know your feelings, and make sure to mention that you are committed to keeping the friendship that you have with them no matter what their answer was.

This way, you’re confessing your feelings and proving to them at the same time that you do not want to give up the friendship that you two have developed. This will give you a better chance of saving your friendship with them if they don’t share the same feelings as you do.

2 – What type of friendship you two have

According to Aristotle, there are 3 kinds of friendships: friendships of pleasure, friendships of utility, and friendships of virtue.

If the friendship with the person you like is just a business friendship or a normal school friendship, then there is a chance that you may not remain friends after you confess your feelings to them.

On the other hand, If your friendship is based on benefits, for example, if you go out together for fun, or you chat together when you’re bored, then your friendship might have a better chance at surviving but it’s still not very safe.

However, if your friendship is based on respect and admiration, then you’ll have a high chance of saving your friendship even after you confess your feelings.

So, classify the type of your friendship in order to have a better idea about whether or not your friendship will be ruined after you confess.

3 – What type of person you or your crush are

This is important. Whether your friendship will survive or not after you confess depends on you and your crush.

If you are not the type of person who is able to overcome rejection and leave things behind, then you might decide that you don’t want to be friends with the person who rejected you anymore.

However if you’re capable of adapting to the rejection and understanding the reasons behind it, then you might be able to still keep your friendship going with the person that you like after you confess your feelings to them.

But, it’s not only up to you, it’s up to your friend too. If your friend is shy, protective or an introvert then there is a chance that they break the friendship themselves after you confess to them.

So keep that in mind when you want to assess whether confessing to your friend will ruin your friendship or not.

What to do after you confess your feelings

Alright, so now that you have an idea of whether or not your friendship with your friend might get ruined after you confess your feelings, you need to know what to do after you confess.

The best thing to do is to let them decide how to move forward and not put any pressure on them.

If your friend has feelings towards you too, then congratulations for both of you. If they need more time and space, then you need to give it to them. If they immediately told you that they would love to stay friends, then that’s good.

Most importantly, if they decide that they would rather not be friends anymore, then give them what they need. Do not force your friendship on them because it will most likely not work. 

In this case, what you should do is move on with your life and be proud of yourself for having the courage to confess your feelings instead of burying them for ages, which brings me to my last section in this article.

Should you confess in the first place?

Yes, you should definitely confront your crush. The best thing you can do when you have feelings towards someone is to let them know.

You need to take your chance, even though it might mean the end of your friendship with them, you have to do it.

To summarize

Whether or not confessing your feelings to your crush will ruin your friendship with them depends on many factors including the way you confess, the type of friendship you have and the type of people you and your crush are.

If you’re still not sure whether you should confess your feelings or not, then you need to know that you’re only wasting your time if you don’t. 

Do it. if it works, then congratulations. If it doesn’t work, then don’t try to force yourself on them and move on.

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