How to deal with introverted people

The ultimate guide on how to deal with introverted people

Introverted people are all around you, and you might be one of them too (We’ll figure out later in this article). Since introverted people constitute a huge part of the human society, we need to know how to deal with them in the proper way.

How to deal with introverted people? You should deal with introverted people the same way that you deal with any other person but with a few extra rules that you need to follow. Do not force introverted people to become extroverts, always text or call first, do not embarrass them in public, and so on.

This article will talk more about how to deal with your introverted friends and introverted people in general later, but first, we need to know what does being an introvert mean and how to identify introverted people.

What does being an introvert mean

Introverted people are people who prefer to reflect and care about their own thoughts and ideas rather than focus on what’s happening externally around them.

They are people who focus on their inner world rather than the outside world.

One of the most misconceptions about introverted people is that they prefer to stay alone, they are shy, they don’t know how to interact with other people and so on.

Guess what, these are all wrong labels and assumptions. 

Introverted people do like to be around other friends, but they prefer to stay around small groups of people.

Introverted people are not always shy and they do know how to communicate in a perfect way, however they choose not to interact a lot with other people just because they deem it unnecessary most of the time.

Now comes the next question

How do we identify introverted people?

According to this article, introverted people are people who need a quiet environment around them to concentrate, they take time to make decisions, they don’t like group work, they have less friends and so on.

If you have any of these traits, then you might be an introvert.

Here’s a test that you can take to know if you are an introvert or an extrovert.

The test is definitely not going to be accurate as it is a simple series of questions that you need to answer, however it gives you an idea about the kind of person you might be.

I took the test right now, I answered 10 very simple questions and the result says that I am an ambivert. An Ambivert person is someone who is not an extrovert nor an introvert, but is somewhere in the middle.

Alright, so now you know whether you and your friends are extroverts, introverts or somewhere in the middle, you need to know how to deal with the introverted friends around you and understand them.

How do deal with introverted people

1 – Be the one who makes the first text or call

If your introverted friends do not usually take the first step to text you or call you, it doesn’t mean that they don’t like talking to you at all, it’s just that it’s usually hard for them to take the first step themselves.

Text them or call them whenever they come to your mind, and they will be happy to answer you and maybe you can have some great conversations with them along the way.

So if your friend is an introvert, make sure that you text first as they are most probably not going to take the first step even though they would love to have a conversation with you.

2 – Do not force them to become an extrovert

This is extremely important. Try your best not to force them to take some big steps into becoming extroverts as there is nothing wrong with being an introvert in the first place.

Do not force them to go out with a huge group of people, do not force them to take the first steps with people they know and so on.

It might always be a good idea to try and convince them to do something, but do not ever force it on them.

3 – You’ll have to keep the conversation going from your side

As mentioned before, introverted people only like to say what they think is necessary to be said. This means that they will be quite most of the time when you’re having a conversation with them.

That’s extremely fine, and that’s expected. So, you should know that whenever you’re having a conversation with them, you need to know 2 things:

  • Them being silent does not mean that they are not interested in the conversation.
  • It’s you who should keep the conversation going and not them.

There are some times when your introverted friend talks to you about things happening in their lives, and this brings me to the next point

4 – Listen to them when they talk and never interrupt

When an introverted person tries to express what they’re going through with you, it means that you are an extremely important person in their life, and it means that you’ll have to listen.

Just don’t say anything and listen to them, show them that you care about what they are saying and do not interrupt them at all.

The moment they stop talking, you can take the lead and let them know how happy you were that they have spoken up their minds and then you can add your input to whatever they have just told you.

That will encourage them to talk more about their situations and their life experiences with you. Because you listen, then process, then give feedback.

5 – Try not to embarrass them in public

When you’re going out with your friends, embarrassing one of your friends can be extremely fun for both you and them, but not for introverted people.

If you are on the beach, do not throw a pile of sand on them while everyone is watching for example, or do not make fun of their tennis abilities in front of everyone as a joke. While your intentions might be to just have some fun with them, they won’t receive it that way.

Introverted people do not like attention and they love to stay in the background. Making them feel embarrassed in front of a group of people will put them under the spotlight for a moment, which is something that they don’t like.

So, whenever you’re out with an introverted friend, make sure that you don’t make anything that will grab the attention of other people towards them.

Thank you for reading this far. Here’s a summary to what you have just read:

Introverted people are people who prefer to stay around small groups rather than big groups, they only speak when they deem it necessary. 

Dealing with introverted people is like dealing with any other person but with some small extra rules. For example, you need to make sure not to embarrass them in front of others, take the first step, do not interrupt them when they talk and so on.

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